Why I do what I do...
I love my work, its intense, creative, dynamic and ever evolving. I became an entrepreneur many years ago, partly out of necessity. I never felt like I truly belonged in the traditional psychotherapy space. Despite working as a therapist for more than 10 years, I found traditional western psychology somewhat limiting in its efficacy.
Both personally and professionally I kept seeing the same core issues reemerge and it bothered me. I went on a quest to find a better way. I lived in the Amazon for several years, I studied embodiment, brainspotting, and many other powerfully creative techniques for eliciting change and healing on the deepest level.
Because healing is possible
A few years ago it all made sense, I was able to integrate my knowledge and designed a method that truly works for the majority of people. I decided to work with entrepreneurs because I have a soft spot for their drive, creativity and open mindedness. Entrepreneurs face complex challenges, they are also prone to anxiety, burnout and depression.
A strong foundation of emotional stability directly impacts your performance and endurance in your work. But this is sadly overlooked by many entrepreneurs.
I wonder how many more entrepreneurs could succeed if they didn’t have to spend so much time and energy battling demons, getting in their own way, and missing valuable opportunities?
I incorporated coaching because its a valuable addition to my therapeutic model. And who better to understand the complexity of personal growth than an experienced and worldly therapist? It felt like a natural progression in my work. My skills, education and experience allow me to work effectively with the following issues.
Depression is serious condition that affects how you think, feel and act.
It affects people differently with varying degrees of severity.
Some of the common themes of depression are:
Withdrawal from things that used to bring you joy, fatigue, emotional numbness, feeling enveloped in dense and heavy fog, sadness, loss of appetite, thinking about death, self harm or suicide, feeling deeply isolated and alone.
Asking for support when you are depressed is tough, reaching out to someone you trust for support can make a world of difference. Read more about coping with depression here.
Anxiety is a broad term used to describe feelings of nervousness, worry, concern and panic.
Anxiety can affect people differently with varying degrees of severity and duration.
Anxiety represents an emotional and often physical response to some perceived future threat.
Anxiety can be debilitating to live with and affects many aspects of your life including health, work and relationships.
Healing your relationship between your body and mind is necessary for people experiencing difficulties with anxiety.
Regulating the nervous system, understanding your triggers and responses are the first steps you take in learning to manage and heal your anxiety. Read more about how to cope with anxiety here.
Trauma is the response to experiencing or witnessing something that overwhelms your body and mind. What makes something traumatic is your inability to tolerate the experience. When this happens you fragment the trauma and store it deep in your body as a way to survive the experience.
Often these experiences are deeply distressing or disturbing.
There are many types of trauma. Trauma can include physical, emotional, spiritual, psychological, sexual, racial, cultural and inter generational amongst others.
Trauma lives in your body. Its the body you first address when you wish to heal trauma.
Unresolved trauma can manifest as different illnesses, personality traits, habits , addictions, behaviours, depression and other mental health challenges.
When you work with me you are guaranteed a safe and effective way to process and heal your trauma. My training and orientation is focused on regulating the brain and body. I invite you to read more about your body in therapy here.
Addiction is when you compulsively engage with something that is either harmful or potentially harmful.
Common addictions include drugs, alcohol, gambling, sex, porn, food, social medial, gaming and many others.
Getting a handle on your addiction is hard work and requires a battle, sometimes a very long battle.
Therapy can provide you with a strong and supportive scaffolding to help you through the hardest parts.
Looking at addiction through a holistic framework addresses not only your behaviour, but the deeper components too.
When you are able to resolve the original wounds that are so often the cause of addictions, you can set yourself free.
Living with a chronic illness can make you feel very alone.
The psychological impact of going through the diagnostic process followed by treatments can be soul destroying.
Therapy provides you with space to work through and come to terms with your new reality.
Often you disconnect from your body when it fails you and finding your way back can be difficult.
I can show you the way back with guided meditation. The benefits of guided meditation for chronic illness include better pain management, stress reduction, better sleep, lower blood pressure and deep relaxation.
Burnout is a physical and mental response to ongoing workplace stress, exhaustion and pressure.
Burnout affects many of us and can lead to serious health problems in the future.
Learning to how to manage your stress is key.
Understanding the the stages and contributing factors can help you avoid the later stages of burnout. Read more about burnout here.
Relationships are hard work, its common to experience conflicts or misunderstandings from time to time.
But if you find that you are continually at odds with others or your relationships keep breaking down, maybe you need some support to understand what’s going wrong.
There are many reasons why you might have problems with relationships.
Did you experience complicated, traumatic or disappointing relationships when you were growing up?
Experiences like these shape and influence your adult relationships.
If your needs were not met when you were growing up this can create a pattern of relating that follows you through life. This can be painful, frustrating and confusing.
When you work with me you will work with a deep focus on your needs. When you understand your needs you can better communicate them to others.
Your need for safety, expression, non judgment and acceptance are just a few of the your vital needs.
In therapy with me you will learn how to balance and regulate emotion, impulses and negative thought patterns. Leading you to a greater capacity to be others.
Experiencing persistent negative self talk, or a strong inner critic refers to an inner dialogue that can make you feel worthless, inferior, ashamed, stupid, unlovable or incapable.
Negative self talk contributes to your anxiety and depression. It damages your self esteem and hurts your relationships.
Challenging negative self talk can be tough, but silencing the inner critic is possible with a mindful approach.
When you choose to listen to the inner dialogue of the body you can balance the often loud and aggressive inner critic of your mind.
The goal here is to replace hurtful and punishing statements with compassionate and constructive ones so you can stop harming yourself.
Self sabotage is when you actively or passively do things that prevent you from reaching your goals.
There are many reasons why you might self sabotage. Distorted and dysfunctional beliefs play a big role. Emotions like guilt and shame do too.
Sometimes you self sabotage because you need to feel in control.
Self sabotage is very distressing to live with, especially if you self harm, self medicate or have a substance abuse problem.
Self sabotage is best worked with in an embodied way.
There are often deep wounds that you need to heal so you can stop self sabotaging.
Self sabotage can be overt like the inner critic, but it can be subtle and devious too. Self sabotage can operate outside of your awareness.
When you work with me you will make the act of self sabotage conscious, through focused awareness and embodiment. This is the key you need to elicit the change you wish to see.
As you grow you change, and so does your sense of who you are, what you value and what you believe.
Sometimes core parts of who you are or who you think you are change too.
Sometimes these shifts are welcomed and easy to integrate. Sometimes they are painful and difficult.
Your sense of reality is intricately tied to your sense of self. When one is uprooted it can make your life difficult to handle.
An identity crisis can happen at any time but is more common during times of change.
Such as moving to a new country, entering or leaving a relationship or marriage, becoming a parent, losing a parent, spiritual exploration, sexual or gender awakening and when you question your sense of purpose and meaning.
Working through your identity crisis will provide you with a more stable sense of self and this will support many other areas in your life and relationships.
Coping with the loss of something or someone you loved is one of the biggest challenges you will face in life.
Grief informs you of what you value the most. Grief is an important emotion because it helps you heal.
But sometimes we don’t grieve when we need to and this is known as unresolved or unprocessed grief. This happens for many reasons, the pain might be too much to bear so we avoid it, sometimes we lack the necessary support to grieve fully or appropriately.
Sometimes we don’t recognise grief and misinterpret it for other emotions. Your unprocessed grief sits in the back of your awareness and in your body. Over time this can build up and put you under a lot of stress.
There are no rules for grief, each of us grieve in our own way, for however long is necessary. I don’t believe in stages of grief and I don’t subscribe to a set way to “work” with grief. Grief is complex, messy, unique, and ultimately beautiful.
Grief can bring with it a combination of emotions including shock, anger, disbelief, guilt, profound sadness, and even relief.
Grief can impair your ability to eat, sleep and think. Grief is incredible visceral.
If you are having trouble processing your grief you are not alone.
Grief often brings with it complicated and conflicting emotions.
When you work with me I will provide you with the space you need to grieve, in whatever way you need to grieve.
Gender and sexuality play a big role in your identity, your sense of self and your sense of belonging.
Passing through a crisis of self that is centred around a new awareness of your sexuality or gender can be really difficult to process.
Its often a scary time that can be very isolating.
Navigating a hetronormative and cisnormative world when you are not isn’t easy.
A body centred approach can be helpful for you to address and heal the existing trauma and accumulated stress that comes with these experiences.
Working through these big themes can bring about freedom and acceptance. I provide a GLBTIQ+ supportive and aware space.
A little more info about me
I was born in Australia, grew up in New Zealand. I’ve been fortunate to have many interesting experiences and opportunities. But I’ve also faced heavy burdens too. Like many, I experienced complex trauma which eventually manifested into illness. I don’t wish this on anyone. Healing that has been a huge journey. It’s provided me with a profound sense of meaning, direction, and respect for life.
I now live in France with my wife and our two young children.
2014 Dip Transpersonal Counselling. The Phoenix Institute, Melbourne, Australia.
2015 Asc Degree in Holistic Counselling. The Phoenix Institute, Melbourne, Australia.
2017 Grad Dip Therapeutic Arts Practice (Arts Therapy) MIECAT , Melbourne, Australia.